Why Emotionally Focused Therapy is the best choice for your relationship
EFT Stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is usually a short term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couple therapy formulated in the early 80′s by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. EFT is also used with families. EFT is remarkably successful, and targets the core emotional bond of the couple. Certified EFT Therapists have undergone specific training in the field and completed a number of supervised hours before becoming certified.
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Here are just a few of the many good reasons to choose Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help your relationship.
Reason #1 – The Numbers
EFT is remarkably successful. 70% of couples who receive EFT couple therapy display complete recovery from marital distress. 95% of the time there is improvement.
Reason #2 – The Science
EFT is evidence-based. Evidence-based treatment is treatment that has sound systemic research supporting its effectiveness. According to science, EFT works.
Reason #3 – The Bond
EFT targets the emotional bond of the couple, whereas other models of couples therapy focus on behaviors or communication techniques. EFT goes for the roots, not just the leaves.
Reason #4 – No Sides, No Judging
EFT does not take sides. Often couples think that the therapist is going to define who is right and who is wrong, but EFT is not a judge. EFT looks at the dance, the role each person plays in getting disconnected, and how to change the music.
Reason #5 – You Are Worth It
Because no matter what you’ve been through in your life, no matter how many people have hurt you or whom you’ve hurt, you are still worthy of love and affection. And the love and affection you have to offer is worthy.
Reason #6 – You Already Have it in You
EFT holds that you are wired to love. It’s in your DNA, so no matter how much you struggle in relationships, the ability to love and be loved is in you.
Reason #7 – Relationships Are Important
Our relationships protect us. If we have someone to turn to when life is stressful, we are better able to manage the difficulty.
Reason #8 – A Healthy Focus
EFT understands that we all have emotional needs and there is no such thing as “too needy.” There is only effective and ineffective dependency. EFT helps people to become effectively interdependent.
Reason #9 – Sensitivity
When my daughter went to the dentist for tooth pain, the dentist could not find any decay. He said to me, “Sensitivity is not pathology.” I asked if I could quote him. My dentist has wisdom beyond teeth. We are all sensitive, and EFT holds that it’s our sensitivity, in part, that connects us. It’s our emotions and vulnerability and tender underbelly that draw us together. Of course we can be reactive around our sensitivity and that can pull us apart, but when we are able to have a different relationship with that tenderness, both our own and our partner’s, our relationships change.
Reason #10 – EFT is optimistic
EFT believes in your relationship, and that given a little safety and a little clarity, you two can get on the right path to a better and more secure marriage.
Reason #11 – EFT can help heal
EFT is perfectly suited for couples who have experienced an affair or another betrayal.